Friday, February 25, 2011

"Alam ko mahirap pero ganun talaga. We have to set boundaries. Set limits kahit sa sarili nating bestfriends. Kasi ang okay sayo, pwedeng di okay sakin, or sa kanya. Kasi iba-iba naman ang personalities natin. Kaya hindi naman natin maiiwasan na makasakit. Pero mami-minimize lang natin ang number of times na makaka-hurt tayo. Be yourself. Be your best possible self. Pero since bestfriend kita, okay lang sakin makita ang' best and worst possible self' mo. Isa sa role namin as friends mo na sabihin sayo kung kelan kami nahu-hurt para lang maging aware ka. Pero it doesn't necessarily mean na kelangan mong magbago para samin. Minsan we need to be tactful lang talaga.
And good thing na may word na sorry. I know. Hindi mo mini-mean. Bestfriends tayo kaya alam naman natin na hindi natin gustong ma-hurt ang isa't isa intentionally. 
Kahit ako nga lagi ko syang inaaway, pero hindi ko din naman minimean yon. 'Wag kang mag-alala. Kahit ilang beses man tayo magkasakitan, di naman natin matitiis na masira ang friendship sa mga ganyang bagay lang. We love each other so much kaya carry natin 'to."
- I. 

Wednesday, February 23, 2011

` Happiness. :)

When I first heard that we were representing the College of Nursing at the Students` Colloquium, I thought our thesis adviser was kidding. What felt more surreal was being picked to present it in front of Research 101 students, some college instructors from other departments, our own college instructors from the College of Nursing, people from the Office of the Vice President for Academic Affairs, and Dep Ed. Whew!

Imagine how nerve-wracking it was to present a thesis I only had one day of reviewing. And, of course, the rewarding feeling of knowing that all our efforts have not gone to waste by having the honor of being chosen to compete for Best Thesis.

And guess what? We won! :)

So I`m gonna thank my groupmates because we`ve collectively worked on this even if we had to face  difficult decisions while doing our thesis. Thank you Than and Jam for putting up with my bossy attitude. Hahaha. :)) :P And of course, our thesis adviser Madam Bailon for providing us all the information and help we would ever need for this to be finished.

And of course, God. We all thank Him for the guidance and love He has given us. For without Him, this would`ve been nothing.

Thank you for everyone who has prayed for this to be a success, who wished us luck, and who cheered us on  when we least believed in our capabilities.

Thankyou! :)

Monday, February 7, 2011

` Date A Girl Who Reads by Rosemarie Urquico

(In Response to Charles Warnke’s You Should Date An Illiterate Girl.)

Date a girl who reads. Date a girl who spends her money on books instead of clothes. She has problems with closet space because she has too many books. Date a girl who has a list of books she wants to read, who has had a library card since she was twelve.

Find a girl who reads. You’ll know that she does because she will always have an unread book in her bag. She’s the one lovingly looking over the shelves in the bookstore, the one who quietly cries out when she finds the book she wants. You see the weird chick sniffing the pages of an old book in a second hand book shop? That’s the reader. They can never resist smelling the pages, especially when they are yellow.

She’s the girl reading while waiting in that coffee shop down the street. If you take a peek at her mug, the non-dairy creamer is floating on top because she’s kind of engrossed already. Lost in a world of the author’s making. Sit down. She might give you a glare, as most girls who read do not like to be interrupted. Ask her if she likes the book.

Buy her another cup of coffee.

Let her know what you really think of Murakami. See if she got through the first chapter of Fellowship. Understand that if she says she understood James Joyce’s Ulysses she’s just saying that to sound intelligent. Ask her if she loves Alice or she would like to be Alice.

It’s easy to date a girl who reads. Give her books for her birthday, for Christmas and for anniversaries. Give her the gift of words, in poetry, in song. Give her Neruda, Pound, Sexton, Cummings. Let her know that you understand that words are love. Understand that she knows the difference between books and reality but by god, she’s going to try to make her life a little like her favorite book. It will never be your fault if she does.

She has to give it a shot somehow.

Lie to her. If she understands syntax, she will understand your need to lie. Behind words are other things: motivation, value, nuance, dialogue. It will not be the end of the world.

Fail her. Because a girl who reads knows that failure always leads up to the climax. Because girls who understand that all things will come to end. That you can always write a sequel. That you can begin again and again and still be the hero. That life is meant to have a villain or two.

Why be frightened of everything that you are not? Girls who read understand that people, like characters, develop. Except in the Twilightseries.

If you find a girl who reads, keep her close. When you find her up at 2 AM clutching a book to her chest and weeping, make her a cup of tea and hold her. You may lose her for a couple of hours but she will always come back to you. She’ll talk as if the characters in the book are real, because for a while, they always are.

You will propose on a hot air balloon. Or during a rock concert. Or very casually next time she’s sick. Over Skype.

You will smile so hard you will wonder why your heart hasn’t burst and bled out all over your chest yet. You will write the story of your lives, have kids with strange names and even stranger tastes. She will introduce your children to the Cat in the Hat and Aslan, maybe in the same day. You will walk the winters of your old age together and she will recite Keats under her breath while you shake the snow off your boots.

Date a girl who reads because you deserve it. You deserve a girl who can give you the most colorful life imaginable. If you can only give her monotony, and stale hours and half-baked proposals, then you’re better off alone. If you want the world and the worlds beyond it, date a girl who reads.

Or better yet, date a girl who writes.
*GUSHING.* :)))))

Wednesday, February 2, 2011

` I need to remind myself this, too.

"Well. What can we do? Some people just don`t appreciate the time and effort we have intended for them. We give them the everything we could but we don`t get anything in return. It`s like they expect us TO BE THERE ALWAYS. And they never realize that we get tired too, that we need them too. In the end, you just have to accept that we can`t keep trying to fit into their worlds. We should just start to appreciate the people who have been there for us even if we don`t always ask them to be around."
-- A message I sent my friend a few weeks ago.